"We are advised to detach our minds and emotions from the problems created by alcoholism." (One Day at a Time in Al-Anon)
In other words, stop thinking about the alcoholic. Stop thinking about how to control the alcoholic. Stop trying to control the alcoholic.
Similarly: stop thinking about the problem; stop thinking about how to solve the problem; stop trying to control the problem.
I ask God for the next right action and do it.