When I've got a problem, about 1% of the solution involves me talking about it.
When I'm talking extensively about a problem, I'm simply reinforcing the narrative.
I tried so-called talking therapies for years, and they made things worse, as, the more I talked about the problem, the bigger the problem got.
Al-Anon is not a talking therapy: it's a shutting-up therapy.
It's a reading and listening and applying therapy.
Once the problem has gone completely, I can see clearly.
Then there is something to say.