“Love and tolerance of others is our code.” (Chapter 6, Big Book)
If of others is in there, there’s a reason. It would be more economical to say love and tolerance is our code. The restriction of love and tolerance to of others is therefore meaningful.
The programme is not about self-love but self-abandonment.
This requires being intolerant of my own beliefs, thinking, and behaviour, where these are wrong:
“The rule is we must be hard on ourselves, but always considerate of others.” (Ibid.)
Intolerant of active addiction, unhappiness, defects.