What is termed people-pleasing is really attack:
Attempting to take someone else's condition and alter it.
It is not about being nice, compliant, flexible, or pleasing:
It is an act of violence, and a duplicitous one at that.
This explains why some people find an untreated Al-Anon disagreeable.
I'm also on a hiding to nothing even attempting it.
If others are not pleased already, I cannot make them pleased.