The only problem with the excellent notion that I did not cause, I cannot control, and I cannot cure it is that this observation may conceal the fact that I am playing an integral role in the perpetuation of the problem.
Remove the fussing al-anons (including the public agencies and other Very Good Helpers doing Very Good Helping), and the refractory alcoholic gets sober.
I can be as much of a devastating influence in the alcoholic household or constellation as the alcoholic himself.
I didn't cause it, but I might be the one preventing it from reaching its natural crisis—turning point—and resolution.