I used to be eager to please people, because I wanted their approval as an index of my value. It was because I was internally snivelling that I was so obsequious, kowtowing, and then regularly hurt because people did not seem to be praising me.
I had internal contempt for myself yet wanted others to value me.
They backed off.
And so I was hurt or offended.
Being hurt or offended is always a sign of insecurity and self-loathing, denied and projected out.
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune are all located on the inside, mirrored on the outside.
When I was offended, I saw things as offensive. The passive ending (-ed) implied your attack.
"I don't need anyone" can be a denial of the Uriah Heep drive, a deception.
Or it can be the recognition that I require nothing from anyone.
There will indeed be plenty of people in my life, but their identities and roles will shift as God sees fit.