Every demand is too much. That’s what makes it a demand.
A demand met is really a command. And no one likes to be
commanded.
Good action in response to a demand or a command is merely
compliance to avoid punishment.
That’s no way to have relationships.
I did not want relationships.
I wanted staff.
No, no, no, no, no.
If a ‘demand’ is unmet it was either unreasonable (which
reflects a moral problem on my part) or unrealistic (which reflects a cognitive
problem on my part).
So, no demands.
But there are navigation cues.
You shout, I put the phone down, maybe.
You jerk me around, I go and play with someone else.
It’s not there are not consequences.
But other people’s behaviour becomes roadworks, weather, facts to be accepted and allowed for (which is different than allowed).