I can be a bit of a grumbler. Attending AA is not obligatory. Having a sponsor is not obligatory. Doing the Steps is not obligatory. Going to meetings is not obligatory. Going for fellowship is not obligatory. When I feel put upon by any of these things, I can stop whenever I want. No one is forcing me. When I recognise I have signed up voluntarily for all of this, it focuses my attention on why I signed up in the first place (namely the necessity of such measures to survive and thrive). I then brush the chip off my shoulder, adopt a position of gratitude for having these opportunities, and get on with it.